I had similar issues, and through this place, counseling, Al-Anon support, and other kinds of work on ME, I finally came to the realization that my life was too short to live it as someone's punching bag, whether or not THEY believed they had a problem. I knew I wasn't willing to live like that any more.
Mentally, are you getting any help for yourself? It sounds like he has you convinced you're crazy for the way you feel. Like your feelings don't matter. Am I right?