Bigred, I'm sorry for the pain you feel but I disagree with you. The concept that we have only one 'soulmate' and that 'love will conquer all' is what kept so many of us here with our alcoholic partners, to our own detriment. Love is never enough when faced with an active alcoholic. Never. If we could all just love our partners better then the world would see a dramatic reduction in the number of alcoholics and we would not be posting here on this board, devastated by the actions of those we love and who are supposed to love us.
'Soulmates' and the 'power of love' are dangerous, fuzzy thinking concepts that destroy people and make leaving an abusive partner so damn difficult.