I looked for a counselor that had worked in codependency and children of damaged parents (ACoA etc.) He has helped me to figure out why I continually chose people who disrespected and hurt me, over and over again. I didn't see the use of a counselor who specialized in addiction....that only kept the focus on my X, and not on me. I just tried googling "psychologists bowling green kentucky" and came up with a few...but I agree that word of mouth is a great way to find someone compatible.
Good luck!! This might be huge for you.