I would recommend printing Givelove's response and putting it somewhere you can see it every day for awhile.
It's my experience if you don't take care of yourself and make your recovery as important as hers "resentment" will make another ugly appearance and it may not restrain itself to posting on the internet.
Write down YOUR needs then go get them
"your meetings"
"together time"
"tennis/health time"
set gentle but FIRM boundaries then go and sit down with your wife and work out an amicable compromise that enables both of you to get your needs met.
When you present this to her, present this as "you working on your recovery while she works on hers". Don't let either partners "recovery" be more important then the other.
She has now been informed that recovery is the most important thing in her life. That if she puts anything "above" her recovery, that will be the first thing she loses. If you can frame "your recovery" in the same language and let her understand it has the same priority, if she is serious about her own recovery she will respect that.
I have some experience with this.
Truly, I would print out GL's response, everything you need is in that post.