How do you have a conversation with someone, who even sober, blames you and won't listen? How do you save a marriage if when you try to communicate and insults are hurled at you? I wish I could understand....
It takes two willing participants to work on a marriage.
What can you change? You.
Living with an Alcoholic changed me in ways I didn't even know until I started my own recovery.
Things that help(ed) me were going to Al-anon, posting here and educating myself about the disease.
Be gentle with yourself