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Old 06-11-2009, 06:32 AM
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silkspin
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Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Toronto, Canada
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Welcome! This is a great place for you to find help and hope. I'm sorry to hear you've had a tough time; and many here can relate. Hearing about his recent threats and hands around you neck is worrisome. Your priority is to get you and your children safe, above all else.

There is lots of good reading and resources on this site. Learn about alcoholism and you'll realize that this behaviour is very similar amongst alcoholics. Drink, denial, making you feel that it's your fault somehow. You can't buy into that, he is sick. And about putting up with it, from my experience, it's like we want it to work out so bad, don't want to lose our relationship, that we start putting up with things that eventually escalate. Little by little, it becomes the new normal, but if you were to read the same stuff by someone else, I'm sure it would be shocking.

Find an Al Anon group if you can. It has been a lifesaver for many here, including me.
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