Originally Posted by
SLA 
I recently told him that I couldn't take much more of this and he keeps promising to do something about it, has suboxone, doesn't take them.
I'm glad you finally decided to post.
I spent so many years with EXAH, leaving my future in his hands, with his empty promises. I'd say I couldn't take it anymore, but I did nothing to remove myself from the situation. He knew I wasn't going anywhere, and so it was the same old same old day after day.
I will never ever have decent credit thanks to that marriage, and we never had money either. I can't tell you how many times I called my parents asking for rent money because he had taken off with the money to do drugs again.
When I finally did get out of that situation, I was just a shell of a human being. I was bankrupt, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Alanon has been a livesaver for me. It has taught me to be good to myself, to plan my life according to what is best for me. I no longer take a front seat to active addiction, and that includes my 31 year old AD.
:ghug :ghug