nands,
don't know about being a font of wisdom...maybe a trickle here
you already know drinking is not an answer that's why you're not doing it
it's avoidance which only makes the pain worse
you're dealing with the pain now by thinking about it when you can, but you're not dwelling on it 24/7
guess what I'm trying to say is - don't feel like you're not dealing just because you're still feeling the pain.
pain is part of the process of healing
when we drank we didn't address the process or the pain
we tried to ignore it
which mean longer drawn out pain
more drinking
more drinking
no growth
more drinking
you're on the think - pain - grow path
it's not a path without thorns, huh
but it's the right path
you'll get back to relatioships soon enough when you're ready
look at your last post...you're doing some honest self evaluation
that made me think hard enough to be inspired to respond