I used the 12 steps to build up esteem and self confidence.
I know now that my higher power 'approves' of me.
I need no further 'approval' (though it can be nice at times).
Last night I walked into a graduation party ALONE... all by myself... into a group of people I did not know well... everyone looked at me when I came in... I smiled, knowing that I am accepted... that in spite of my shortcomings... I belong.
The 12 steps have made me a member of society.