Thank you Susan. you know i've tried so much of what has been suggested and i do think it works for some addicts but its just gotten me no where. I dont think i can step back into the warden mode again. There are some commonsense rules like no drugs in the house but maybe i do have to just see what he does with this opportunity. this does actually go along with my own personal boundries which is not affecting my serenity and that can only be affected if i jump back into the crazy mom role. His PO rules are going to be similar to what i would say anyway and he'll have those consequences.