Katie,
I also think you dodged a bullet on this guy. Does he do the gambling online? Or is it the casinos? Not that it matter much but if you would be just as alone with him in the house glued to the gambling sites on the computer.
I met my hubby by chance. Do you get out of the house much other than to IOP? Are there any book clubs in your area? As I got older, I realized that I didn't need a man for company. I was lucky enough to have a group of girlfriends to have dinners with, see a movie or talk to on the phone.
Love,
Lenina