Josie,
I guess right now you are feeling very down and maybe even a bit angry, at having to cut this relationship as you have done. Yes it is painful just now for you, but your wisdom and courage in taking this hard step, has probably saved you months, if not years of more grief, pain, bewilderment and misery than you could ever imagine in your worst nightmare.
To know that you are someone who has avoided what we didn't, is such a relief for me that I am crying tears of utter joy right this minute.
I hope you meet some wonderful man who will love and treasure you as you deserve.
God bless