I told him. Please help me stay strong.
I told AH this evening that we need a clear and defined separation. This probably means a physical separation. We are currently living as roommates w/ fuzzy boundaries. It has not been working.
I'm not feeling so great.
There was lots of finger pointing. He says:
"You have erected a wall"
"You have never supported me"
"I saw this coming a long time ago"
"I can't believe you wanted to bring kids into this relationship"
I didn't say much. What can I say to statements like these?
I tried to explain that I don't see how we stand a chance if we don't do our own work/recovery.
He just kept saying that I will not "let him in".
I tried to stay grounded, and voice my reality. I didn't react, or blame, or finger point.
I simply stated that, right now, I can only work on my own recovery.
I got lots of scowls.
We agreed on one thing, neither one of us is happy.
This hurts so bad