No, No, No....you did not set him up! Get that out of your head. It is all part of their plan, to twist it around and make it look like something else, they use it for an excuse to pick-up the booze or the drug. My exah was a master at this game, he would leave and I would be a mess full of guilt.
He is leaving because you spend to much time together....you are married! Leaving because he is not happy...more than likely not happy because he is not allowed more than he 4oz. I don't think it is the codie in you telling you what is up, he is telling you what is up...it is all part of the master plan.
Rose