My husband is 5 months clean and I have some of the same issues. My husband is working (he has always been a workaholic), but if he isn't working or going to meetings he is plopped on the couch which has never been like him (before drugs or during). I have a really hard time sympathizing because I feel like life didn't stop because he went to rehab. While he was gone I was working full-time and taking care of our infant son. Now he is home and none of that has changed.
I don't have words of wisdom just wanted to let you know you aren't alone!