First a big ((((hug)))) I know how painful this is, we love our babies so much. You did the right thing, he has to want to quit and he has to hit a bottom before he wants it. Don't look at his pain, there are many pain management classes out there that would teach him to deal with the pain. Was he using drugs when he was 13 to deal with it? He is using his back to make you feel bad, don't let him!! There are many older people that deal with pain everyday, not by using drugs. We have to let them go in order to get them back. Try to find a meeting and go, it is a big help to have others to talk to who are going through the same thing. I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Julie