Wow, thank you for posting this. I was going to post the exact same thing today. I am preparing to leave my abf of 9 years. He has shut people out of his life and I feel like I am now everything to him. Girlfriend, best friend, business partner. When I leave it will turn his world upside down as I am so entwined in everything. I know that it is not healthy, but he relies on me to keep him stable. I KNOW this is not my responsibility. But when I leave, I am prepared to watch him crash. I feel soooo much guilt. His actions have gotten him here, but it's still very painful to "throw someone you love to the wolves"! I just know that I don't have a choice. So I'm moving forward. I know it's not going to get easier. It hurts.