Wow,
You have nothing to feel guilty about, you didn't cause this. Them wolves you are sending your wife to, are the only real hope she has, so you need to look at this a little differently. What you are doing is trying to save her, not hurt her so stop feeling guilty. Keep going to the meetings and asking for help, it is time to put the focus back on you. Remember addicts feed off guilt so don't let her how your feeling. Julie