Thanks guys.
It's almost impossible to explain this to someone who is not an alcoholic/addict as, to them, it is still a choice so how crazy must it seem, whether alcohol or drugs, that you have to first make the effort to get the money, then go and buy the drugs/alcohol and then take it...over and over again...
Yeahgr8- you're so right about this. I am a complete control freak myself, and I am baffled as to why someone would repeatedly do something that caused him to LOSE control, and to risk everything in the process.
If you really do believe it is a choice then that speaks volumes about his behaviour and your relationship
Would you mind explaining what you mean? I am a bit confused at the moment, and am having a pretty hard time seeing things from anyone else's point of view.
Probably many need to have that weight lifted too, to get on the road to recovery, because self-loathing also keeps us drinking.
Californiapoppy- thank you for sharing that.
I'll always be addicted, but I can manage that by not using.
bamboozle- I hope one day my husband will have the same insight.