Somehow, my AH used to think that doing things like that made everything ok and that this was supposed to be something that I was grateful for.
Isn't this funny? Yesterday abf decided we should spend the day together. We haven't done anything together in a REALLY long time. When typically I'd run to the store myself, he was up and offering to come along... because we were "spending the DAY together". What a long day!!! You can't not do things for months or years and then do it once and say, "hey, look what I'm doing" and expect someone to be thrilled!
Its the "high" of the their sorrow remorse and want to make it up to you feeling.
I don't think I ever got a "high" from the remorse, but I totally get what you're saying. I was more like, wow, he's been a big idiot, but look how bad he feels about it! Look how nice he's being now! He really DOES appreciate me! LOL