Glad to see you wandered over here Daisy
Although I have never been in your position, and never will be (as far as I know), just from my own experiences with my dad, I would say you're not being codependent at all. There is a fine line between codependent and loving.. You are loving and being supportive in his
recovery which is great! If he turns back to drugs though and you are still able to say "I love you for what you are right now, no matter what happens" that's where you're teeter-tottering between being supportive and codependency. That's where the enabling comes into play and all that stuff that I'm sure you've heard a crap load about already. I think addicts need to realize when to stop on their own otherwise they will always relapse..they need to know the concept of getting clean for themselves rather than getting clean for the sake of others. Sorry if that seemed negative, it was just my opinion. I'm certainly not saying that he cannot recover. Keep hope
Jay