i'm leaning toward the idea that the original belief may be true and then i am expounding upon it with untruths that cause more problems.
I fouond it helpful to look at how my belief is harming others...well the original belief about myself isn't...but from it are springing a hundred irrational beliefs that are where the problem lies.
Thx Jim....something in your post triggered that.
So i have a beleif that has consistantly been proven true and is rational..but from it spring a bunch of irrational beliefs about how to deal with the problem...that cause pain and suffering to myself and others.
Ok..like i said this will be a long process but i will look at this and continue to grow