Originally Posted by
Bamboozle 
For example, my view on "self-seeking" doesn't fit the traditional definition. To me it means inner searching...reflection of one's self and one's actions, whether negative or positive. To find the real me...to search out who I am.
In this fashion, I "self-seek" to find peace with myself.
That was my train of thought when I picked my user name, long before cracking AA's big book. Now I am just too d@mn stubborn to change it
I have come to understand what self-seeking means in AA-speak as what I would call "self promoting". Always looking to be the center of attention and whatnot. For me personally, I have to look out for being a good listener, letting the person talking have the floor without interjecting my own opinions. (Hehe, bet you NEVER would have guessed that). I try to listen without comparing myself/my own thoughts and experiences to what that person's talking about. Because OMG I'm not the center of the world!