What I do is to avoid all my "triggers".
If I'm uptight I tell myself "Big deal" or "Who cares?"
I use SR as a crutch. (If whatever is going on bothers me, and that has happened, I quit reading for the day, the next day I can deal with it)
I'm also making a bigger effort to please myself. My house is better kept, I get dressed up (make-up, hairdo, and nice clothes) everyday, even if I have to change later for walks or sports, or gardening. I go out on weekends, dancing, a movie, window shopping. I finally am beginning to like the lady in the mirror, that helps.