Was he sad or was he having a pity party? I had to "terminate" my relationship with my 22 yr old son on February 28, 2009. I told him it was a relationship with me or the drugs...not both. I did not tell him this out of "control", but because it was killing me having a front row seat to his addiction. I told him not to call me until he was clean, so on Easter he sent me a text (I guess in his mind he was not calling so it was ok). Anyway, he wanted to appologize and tell me he loved me and missed me, but he still is not clean. It is hard not to respond, but he knows the conditions and I find that when I am not witnessing first hand his self-destructive behavior, it is better for me. Please, for your own sanity, stay tough and get counseling.