If you wait for these events, some others will inevitably come out as soon as they are up. There will always be something. I remember when I decided to get out of the relationship with my ABF. There was never a good time to do it. First, it was the holidays, then he lost his job, needed help, blah...blah...blah, etc, etc, etc.
You know what quacking is, my dear? That's when our addicts are talking a bunch of reasons and excuses. And that's what you are doing now...quacking. Your excuses and procrastination are keeping you sick and sad. And when Mom's not happy, ain't nobody happy in the house, especially your children.
Take action, or stay in the situation, but stop coming up with reasons to do so. There are no good enough reasons to stay in this situation.
Please get help and get out. Do you go to meetings? Please keep coming back here, too. We want to help, and part of that is going to be telling you what we needed to hear when we were in your situation.
Love,
KJ