I tell myself I must be "sure" I am entitled to my feelings
Why wouldn’t you be?
I have to "process" said feelings in order to avoid ruining relationships.
Or realize that some relationships are better off ruined.
My one GF here told me she has tried to include me in her life as she feels "sorry for me," as if I'm some charity case.
That wasn’t a nice thing to say. If she was sincere, perhaps she’s not a very good friend.
I *did* spend the night with someone and I am *not* casual about that - but he is. I know I should kick him to the curb, but...
Just for the sake of clarity, I was not making a statement about how people should live. I was just saying that sometimes we have relationships which are incompatible for whatever reason and fretting about it is useless.
I once heard it described like this:
You kneel at the edge of a stream which is flowing from you left to your right side. You put your hand into the water to take a drink. Water will flow in and out of your hand. You can’t worry about the water that has passed. Lift the water that is in you hand, and take a drink.
Now think of the water as love.
Quit worrying about the love or friendship that has passed through your hands, and take a drink of the love and friendship that exists in your hands right now.