OMG, Gwen, As soon as I read what your X wants to do, well it just brought back so many memories. At the age of 19 1/2 my AD & her friend were in a very serious auto accident, both drugs & alcohol involved. Both girls flown to shock trauma. Both girls were living with me. Suddenly, the friends father wants to be in her life and of course, file suit. Yep, I was just as angry as you are right now. My AD spent a week in shock trauma, 2 weeks in-patient rehab & 8 weeks in out-patient rehab. (learning how to walk & write) You D*amn right I was angry. Both girls got high, both girls got into that car. Today, 10 1/2 years later I look back and Thank God that both girls are alive.
So, sweetie, take a deep breath, hmmm maybe several....then let it go. Just as Done said "it is what it is"
Hugs,
Chris