(((Gwen))) All of you are in my prayers. YOU need to take care of yourself, as you don't want to end up in the hosp again. In taking care of yourself, you need to let go of any anger or guilt that you may feel. I had a similiar incendent with my AD. (twice)
She & her friend in two very serious accidents, I had to call her mom to advise her that her daughter was being flown to shock trama. (this girl was not only a friend to my AD, but had been living in our home for approx 5 mos, my AD was driving)
I'm praying that both girls (& your younger ones also) will learn the lesson NOW, as opposed to later.
Gwen, it took me from 1998 til this past year to forgive myself and to ask forgiveness from the other mother. Don't let it take you that long, you did not do anything wrong.
Hugs,
Chris