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Old 04-16-2009, 02:05 PM
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Fubarcdn
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Resentments are tough and I think they are something everyone, whether they drink or use or not, should probably try to remove.
Although we hold on to them because we think we are punishing the alleged perpetrator we are really only punishing ourselves by keeping these thoughts in our heads.
I have a few resentments and I try to analize these and take ownership for my part in them.
I then forgive myself for what I contributed and then try to see the situation from the eyes of the others involved.
If I can forgive them I do and if not I eliminate them from my life and as far as I am concerned they no longer exist.

I don't do AA either as I think that although some of the things that they propose, like step 4 (this one about resentments and step 8 I think which is the one about making amends can help you have a more peaceful and satisfying life, they have nothing whatsoever to do with whether I drink or not.

Hope that this helps a little.
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