Ha.. guess you got it before I deleted it. Anyways.. I'm sure you'll hear from her. She'll tell you what you want to hear, and you'll post her response. And then you'll send another note, and back and forth. Why have you not posted this info on the Friends and Family of Alcoholics forum? this forum is for people seeking recovery from addiction. I tried to walk away from this darn thread but it's like turning away from a car wreck. She will not get sober for you. It's ridiculous to think she would, or that "if she loves you" blah blah anything. PLEASE ask other people involved w/ alcoholics/drug addicts for advice. You wont find many in THIS particular forum. Please go to Alanon, print out this thread, let somenone help you with YOUR issues here... You are the one with some serious need for help it seems, she doesn't want it.