DB,
If we were f2f right now, my tone is gentle.
Are you reading the posts that everyone has given thought to and written. Everyone but yourself has your best interests in mind...except you seemingly. Have you given any thought to why you want to make this work so early in meeting her?
I don't discount what some have reported who had a similar experience and it worked out, but you can't take those one off's and expect the same result.
Your gf response (I believe that was her response) uh oh....sounds to me that she may be telling you that the bottle is going to win and if you want to accept her on her terms, fine, if not.......... don't forget, she's a victim here. ;-/