He got custody of my kids when he found me in a house cooking drugs. They werent there but he called Division of Family Services and the sherriff. I was in the middle of my addiction. I did go thru rehab and have been clean over 3 years but cleaning up the mess I had created with my addiction took alot longer. I just got out of a rehab prison from July 07 to November 07. Not to mention, no drivers license, or job. I dont have anything to stand on to get the kids from him if I leave. He works fulltime, has a business on the side, never in trouble, has the home etcetc. He is just the better canidate to have them but not emotionally. He has no interaction with them. He just pays the bills. But that is why he has the kids.