bballad- your post made a lot of sense. I might have to check out that book.
After I realized all this last week, I was reading Tolle (I really don't want to become one of those people who continually refers to this man— I have some aversion to him, I don't know why, even though I so far identify with many concepts in his book, it might have something to do with the cult surrounding him and the fact that when I went to his website it costs like one million dollars for a ticket to see him speak) and low and behold he had a section too on this being right theme.
I definitely think it must come from a place of insecurity. I like this line form bballad:
to me,if I have the need to be right all the time,it sends in into a selfish area where i cannot have true friendship,fellowship with others or have a good deep peace with myself
Okay, now I intellectually understand this, the problem is getting it to internalize. But first things first.