When my daughter was active in her addiction, there was a period of time when I saw her a total of 5 hours in 14 months. If someone had told me in the beginning of that time that this was what was going to happen, I would have just given up. Instead I learned to live my life one day at a time and I made it through. When my husband lost his job in Aug of 07 I lived one day at a time. Today my daughter has 10 months clean. My husband has found a new job. But I still live one day at a time. It is probably the second most important principle that I have learned through Ala-non. The most important is the first step. Hugs, Marle