Freedom - Good Lord!!! I am so sorry.
Katy - I'm so sorry for you too sweetie.
Skeeter - Take care of you. You can't love him clean. No amount of tears, no amount of guilt and no amount of threats are going to get him clean until he himself has had enough. Sometimes enough never gets here.
It's good that you are educating yourself because addicts are master manipulator's. You think you are entitled to express your concern. It is your right to not approve. It is also your right to leave.
They will try and out talk you. They will tell you that YOU are the one with the problem. You are crazy. They will tell you your information is wrong or it doesn't apply to them. They WILL attack those they love who threaten their love affair with their DOC. You're feelings will get hurt. Expect it. Be prepared for it and be ready to get out of dodge.
He will have to bottom out before he will bother with treatment. You will hear "rock bottom" used over and over again. Think about it, when you are at the bottom, where else is there to go? You either stay there or go UP (or look up which is God or another higher power).
Sometimes we just have to walk away. Often times we look back over a shoulder and wait and wait and hope and wait. We get sucked into their addiction and it consumes us as much as it consumes them.
We become addicted to the addict. Maybe it's the drama (though we would never admit THAT). Maybe it's the need to caretake. Maybe its the compulsion to ride in and save the day. We may never know why but we DO NOT have to stay aboard the sinking ship.
Keep posting!