This is what works for me using the model from Women for sobriety. I think even a male could use this. I can't type in a links yet but look up this on the internet.
womenforsobriety dot org
go under the link for new life program and it lists the affirmations that are used.
The reason I like women for sobriety or WFS is that instead of steps that ask me to be powerless I am using positive affirmations that lift me up.
I have worked through schemas ( can also put in character flaws in leu of this term) in rehab, worked through childhood issues etc etc. I am done beating myself up and I am confidently taking the power to think positive uplifting thoughts. I use meditation, guided imagery, energy healing with postive mind tapes, Reiki, prayer, exercise, hobbies and a wonderful psychologist to help me daily. I don't ever dwell on my addiction unless I am in a 12 step meeting. The only reason I go to 12 step meetings is it is mandated to me to do so. I have been to 6 months worth of 12 step meetings and they don't work for me.
What works for me is knowing I have to be clean no matter what, it is everything to be clean to me. It means my career back, my life back, it means taking care of my family. Being not clean it not an option for me. It is easy once you make your mind up there is no going back. My worst emotion is anger. But I've found that the next day the anger is gone and it was nothing to use over whatever the problem was nothing was going to get better in my life over using. Plus NOTHING OR NOONE nor any situation deserves to be given the power to make me use. NOTHING.
I am an emotional human that does not like to expose my vulnerabilities to myself or others I scored really high on wanting everything to be perfect including myself, on self sacrificing which I do really well. And 12 steps don't work for me because in my area it's done rigidly I can't take the dogma but I've found what works for me and I am truly happy, peaceful. So alternate programs of recovery do work-- anything can work if you desire sobriety as the end result. I have to guard against the possibility that I could relapse and I know for me it comes with feeling unworthy about myself which is why 12 steps don't work. I feel worse after and I need self esteem, uplifting, positive program that helps me set good boundaries, helps me love myself, love others and empowers me.
It's a mash of finding what works, but I do believe in god just not sponsors or 12 steps. lol.