Katie,
I would think priorities need to be made and then checked off. For me, until I got sober and into a process for continuing recovery, I couldn't really properly take care of other business. I was just scattering my energies and not doing the best job I could.
I really hope you find some place, some theory or philosophy that will help you recover without feeling threatened. For me, I use a bit of this and that. I let go of what doesn't work for me and stay focused on what does.
Love,
Lenina