something that works well for me when i can do it...is to carefully post one time and then stay out of the chaos....Once i become defensive i can soon get into a swinging match with anyone in the way...I have gotten to that point in secular and in the 12 step....doesn't seem to be that is is any one specific point of veiw or person taht this can happen with.
I call it wirling karmas...the law of cause and effect...the first effect becomes the cause of the next effect....so i can either move things in a positive direction or a negative one or remain neutral.
When I am off or am particulary sensitive on a certain issue I dont' do so hot at this, but when I can I try to remember not to feed the wirlwind and to state my expereince or even opinion at times and move on.
if it's really bugging me i pm someone and rant for a while...that helps alot.