Although my 22 year old AS does not tell make up grandiose lies, he still lies. He has become a master deflectionist. He likes to tell me about the problems, addictions, lies, etc., of his father and others as well, but he is not like to discuss his addiction, lies and problems. So he deflects. I have heard enough and told him that I do not want to be a part of his self-inflicted, negative life. I told him to call me when his life starts moving in a positive direction and he becomes a productive citizen.