My husband became unemployed in Aug of 2007. We did not have parents that would pick up the slack for us and so we had to find our way ourselves. Your sons will someday not have you or grandparents around to pick up their slack. Let them learn how to stand on their own two feet now. It will be easier and kinder that way. As for the grandsons you do what you feel you need to to protect them, but there are other avenues for your son to explore in getting assistance besides the bank of mom and dad. Hugs, Marle