I will start by saying if I drink my wife will leave me and that is all the motivation that I need.
I am creating my own program from several sources.
First source was a combo of the BB and rational recovery.
Phase 1
realize that if I start drinking I am toast and committ to never having that first drink ever. Period. Not negotiable.
Phase 2
Get my self image in shape by exercising and meditating.
The meditating consists of a 4-4-8 breathing exercises only: nothing spiritual
Phase 3
Making amends for my actions.
The only one I hurt was my wife and to a lesser extent my kids.
I am finished with this with my kids and my wife is a work in progress but it is getting better
Phase 4
Getting rid of the things that hinder my life and jeopardize my journey.
Right now I am working on tolerance. There is plenty of spots around here to practice this. I have also reduced my ignore list down to one. This is a definite work in progress with a long way to go. When I have that under control I will identify other things.
Phase 5
This has to do with finding new things to occupy my time other than the bar scene.
I will start on this as soon as I get farther along in Phase 5.
This is as far as I have gotten.
