Originally Posted by
Zak68 
I told her this is what happens when you won't let the people who love you help you.
Actually, this is one of the classic false beliefs of codependents. It implies that, if the codependent (loved one) is only allowed enough access to "fix" the addict, then they can "fix" the addiction. This is a false belief, and will send you to insanity.
The statement should read:
This is what happens when you choose not to seek help, or choose not to go to any lengths to change the things you need to change.
The best people to help a substance addicted person
are successfully recovering addicts. Just like the best person to do brain surgery on you is a brain surgeon. Go to the experts, who know the condition inside and out, and have experience and networks in how to solve the problem. Love doesn't do this. Loved ones don't, either. There's a reason why they don't let loved ones into the brain surgery operating room, think about it.
Sending encouragement,
CLMI