Re: still hurt by ex ah
It seems to me like there was a Sex and the City episode that claimed that it takes half the time you were together to get over a relationship. So, say, if you were together for five years, you wouldn't really be over it for two and a half years.
Grieving is a long, hard process, and there are no shortcuts.
If your ex were truly happy, he wouldn't need the alcohol. Alcohol is there to fill the empty places in his life.
Have you tried practicing gratitude today? Can you make a list of what you're grateful for? I am grateful that you have the gift of life today, that you have a child you love, that you were strong enough to release yourself from the bonds of alcoholism. You are on your way to a healthy life. If he's still drinking, he isn't; it doesn't matter how happy he seems.