Re: still hurt by ex ah
people without a program make the same mistakes over and over and over. your ex will have the same success with another woman as he had with you.. simply because.. he hasnt changed. and unless he picks a total doormat he wont be any happier with her than with you.. and visa versa.
all you can do is avoid him as best you can.. and with time clarity comes that balances the "new" memories that you are holding onto that hurt.. start to balance with the "truth" of how bad things were that made it so you divorced him.
i struggle with it too.... but.. it gets easier.. take one day at a time.. one step at a time.. and one phone call to an alanon friend at a time.
it hurts yes.. but it hurt worse, for me at least, to be with the ex. i get rose colored glasses once in a while.. that hurts to remember the few good times we had together.. but the reality is.. the bad is there.. real bad. and unless he changes.. she will see it too.