I have had a lot of challenges in learning to respect myself and getting in touch with some pretty painful feelings. I still catch myself muttering offensive remarks when I pass a mirror.
I am much better than I used to be though. I treat myself well I eat right, I go for those free facials at the mall, take a warm bath with some fragrant oils that I like ect....
Over the years I have learned that if I can't be kind to myself then I might not be kind to others so I treat myself kindly so I can pass it own.