Originally Posted by
loverof1 
I don’t like to accept the blame for my situation.
It helped me to take the word "blame" out of it. It is life, it's not always good, not always bad, but it happens.
Painful experiences and suffering are lessons to be learned. If we don't learn them, more pain and suffering usually follows until we do. I much prefer the word "responsible" as you used later on in your post.
Originally Posted by
loverof1 I lashed out at those who were brutally honest with me about what I am responsible for.
Learning what you are responsible for is only half the lesson. The other half is learning what you are
not responsible for. (i.e. another person's choices)
Anger can be a good thing, if I learn something from it and take the proper action.
L