In my case the enabling was more emotional. My AS is 16 so its not like i can just throw him out on the street. Mine is more making him accountable for his actions and enforcing house rules. but bigger than that is not allowing him to use me as his excuse anymore - not accepting that his problems are mine or the reason he uses is because of me. Everyone is different so I think that enabling can take on different forms - if what you do keeps them from feeling the true consequences of their actions then its enabling.