Ok I am having a meeting with my niece about her being caught with a cigarette. She "CLAIMS"" she was holding it for a friend. Yet being with an addict for many years and being a smoker myself I have use that excuse like many addicts make up excuses. How many of us have been told we are hanging on to it for a "friend"". She wants to talk to me about it and try to BS me too. I have no problem talking to her and listening to her side but I dont think she expects me to call her out on the BS. I think she thinks she can sway me to believe her. Should I? Should I give her the benefit that she was holding it for a friend? I know what the truth is. I have done it too and guess what it was MY smoke I was holding for later. I keep telling her she isnt re-inventing the wheel here but I dont know how to make her see my point. nor care cause in her mind thats what she believes but I dont. I know it isnt true. Sorry but smokes are so much more addicting.
How many of us wish that we would have listened to the people about how dumb it is when we were 13-14yrs old. Its the age where they think I WONT get addicted and I can stop anytime. I thought that too. 20yrs later I still smoke. So how do I get through to her? Without making it look like I know shes lying? What would u do? I want to tell her how stupid it is and how addicting it is and its SO hard to walk away from.
Any ideas how to address this without coming across as a I know its ********? Please give me advice or how u would handle this? Thanks Kim