what concerns me is i think the reason for the drop out of site for a couple days was because they were drinking again and they are angry for me calling them on it and they are lying to me!! The lack of trust is what hurts the most as i love them very much...
Yes it hurts. But this is their recovery. and their slip. If they want it, they will pick themself back up and get to a meeting. If they don't they will continue to lie and drink. Their choice.
Remember... you didn't cause it, you can't control it and you can't cure it.
Take care of you
an congrats on your sobriety!